What You Need to Know About Dating White Women Posted by Admin
First, remember that there still exist some stigmas about but black men dating white women. It’s been so looked down upon in history that many still feel it to be taboo. But, if you’re willing to get over that, and not let the past define your future, then you may be ready to date a white woman and overcome some of the hardships that you might come across. Rejection (it’s actually universal)
Like rejections. If you’re rejected, don’t give up. Most rejection happens because she isn’t attracted to you. And you know what? It has nothing to do with race. It’s got to do with character, height, weight, grooming, your car, your job… and though it seems shallow, it’s just how it works. With all women.
Third, dating a white woman might mean that you’ve got some uncomfortable black women who may cause some trouble. If it’s a passerby – no biggie. But you’ve got to really think things through when that woman is possibly your mother, daughter, sister, or other relatives. That’s a lot more to work through.
You’ve got to be willing to recognize that they love you and want the best for you, but that in the end, you’re making your own decisions.
Stereotypes and Expectations
Fourth, stereotypes are always something you’ll have to deal with. People’s perceptions of both races can get in the way. They may be expecting something that you’re not, and vice-versa.
And, last but not least, something that can affect is the guilt. Even if you’re decided, the guilt might creep in occasionally. Your community or family may have you think that you’re doing something harmful to them by dating a white woman. The doubts will come. But, remember that no one is perfect, no one can please everybody, and who you are with is really a very personal choice that has to be good for you.
So, what else might you have to deal with when dating white women (apart from the cultural and historical stigmas)? Awkward convos.
Joking about race can be a great ice-breaker. But it’s also risky, especially with someone you’re meeting for the first time.
It’s Not All About Race
It’s not necessary, either, to keep the convo focused on the race! Get to know each other – likes, dislikes, goals, hobbies… do NOT ask how many black men she’s dated unless you want her to ask how many white girls you’ve dated.
When (and we say ‘when’, not ‘if’) strange questions about your hair or skin come up, try and take them in stride. It doesn’t mean that you’re strange or anything, just perhaps a new experience.
Meeting the Parents
If you’ve been dating for a while and haven’t met her parents yet, don’t get offended. She’s not ashamed of you… it’s a big step to take! Think about how it would be to have her meet your mama. Got it?
Now, dating a white woman may have its challenges, but if you’re intent on trying it out, go for it. It will be a great learning experience for both of you. It would be naïve to think that race will play no part in the relationship, so be sure you’re prepared for what others may throw at you. And, who knows? A white girl may be just what you were looking for.